I've just set up my RPi 4 (4gb version) which worked eventually, using a direct connection to an old monitor. The first attempt just stuck on the initial 4-colour spectrum screen, and refused to go any further. This was using the hdmi socket next to the audio socket. I then tried again using the hdmi socket next to the usb power socket, and it all went fine. Surely this isn't right, is it? Shouldn't both hdmi sockets work the same?
But a far more serious problem...
I'm now trying to use it via VNC from my desktop PC (after enabling via the Config screen), and it's unuseable - the RPi disconnects every 30 seconds or so, and then I have to wait for about a minute for it to reconnect. I've rebooted the RPi a few times, but it makes no difference. I've always used VNC to run my RPi boards; it works flawlessly with the Zero W and the 3B+, but it's absolutely useless with the 4B. This is an absolute deal-breaker for me, if I can't use it via VNC, then it's pointless.
Straight after the initial Raspbian installation and setup, it tried to do an automatic software update, but it then displayed a couple of error messages to the effect that Buster couldn't be updated for 7 days and a few hours or so, and nothing was downloaded/updated.
Any advice, please. Otherwise, this is just £54 down the toilet.