I was torn between thread jacking or starting a new thread, my issue is slightly different so I went for a new thread.
My Edimax wireless dongle wouldn't connect at all when I had ethernet plugged up and tried using ssh to connect it form my laptop. I installed wicd-curses to do the wireless. Then I connected the pi up to my tv and the dongle connects! Great news! I can ssh into it and everything!
But then if I reboot the system, I have to go back into wicd-curses on the tv screen to start the connection again to be able to ssh into it from my laptop. I have the setting for Automatically start this connection on start up checked.
I have not edited any config files or anything.