I just bought 2* Pi4B 2GB and tried to connect the POE hat (which i've done hundreds of times without exaggeration) and realised the GPIO pins were not properly aligned, i assumed i somehow caused it and went for the other pi and looked at the pins carefully. Turns out they are all slightly misaligned, but only a fraction of a millimeter, easier to feel with a finger then see with my eyes.
A normal header slips on after some light finessing, but the POE hat has a flatter design and less of a "funnel" for the pins which makes the placement of the pins more important. I spent a good 45 minutes on it, carefully trying to straighten pins, wrecked one pi completely and only just managed to get a poe hat on the other, at the cost of one loose GPIO pin that was pushed out the backside of the Pi. Just to be sure i tested it on a couple of old pies and the hat went on without problem.
Two weeks ago i spent a day putting together 130 pcs of Pi3B+ + POE cards without losses so even if the above makes me sound like a butterfingered oaf i assure you that is not the case here, this is first time i've ever managed to wreck a pi, which a testament to the extreme build quality since i've done some realy unfriendly stuff to some of them

Both pies in their original box, unopened and no marks or scratches on them, bought in a store so not a case of abuse in transport.
Has anyone else experienced this or similar with a Pi4 + POE hat? im hoping some machine just had a bad day because boy om loving this update.