yer i fudged my way through the guide you wrote.
i'm all sorted now, the main question i didn't get answered but luckily someone at work managed to answer for me was how to find the ip address of the pi itself.
i'll explain how i did it for any noobs like me out there (please don't be too shocked by how basic this may seem to some of you)
to find the ip address of the pi you have to log in to your router, to do this go to your internet browser (internet explorer/firefox) and in the adress bar type in the ip adress of the router, in my case (for sky routers) 192.168.0.1 and hit enter.
this prompts you for a username: admin, and a password: sky. i found these here http://www.skyuser.co.uk/forum.....stats.html
then go to the "attached devices" tab and hit refresh with out the pi plugged in to your router via an ethernet cable. there should be displayed all the ip address's for attached devices, plug your pi in via ethernet and hit refresh again, a new ip address should appear in the list (or in my case two??) choose the top one of the two and use that to use for your the pi's ip address.
also something else i didn't find very clear, with the guide in the mypiexperience blog was the display name part, where you type the ip address:display name in, i didn't realise that the display name is simply 1 and to add it on you just type :1 after the ip address i.e. 192.168.0.3:1
again, i am starting from near enough scratch so apologise for how basic this all is. this is the first time i have encountered linux! i know, developers release...i've read that a bunch of times before...