I've got my Pi up and running Debian, connected to a display (TV using HDMI), connected to my network (through my laptop's wifi & ethernet using internet connection sharing) and everything's going quite well.
My next step is to get SSH up and running, so that I'm not constantly fighting over the TV. I've downloaded Bitvise Tunnelier (http://www.bitvise.com/tunneli.....r-download
) and I've managed to connect to SSH on the Pi (logging in using pi/raspberry) and the SFTP works, as does xterm.
I'm now trying to connect via Remote Desktop but it fails immediately, with an error of connection refused.